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Oh, my friend, how I understand what you're saying. Not because I've been through the same thing, but because I live something similar - as the wife of a PTSD riddled veteran who himself came from a severely attachment disordered background, with layers upon layers of ancestral truama - I've spent years as an MSW diving into the nature of personality disorder, where it comes from, the nuances that define domestic violence (and also what its not), deciding for myself where my own boundaries are and why they look different than the textbooks, how my own patterns add to, change, and improve (or not) our relationship, how to make it all work in my own life...and I've spent years doing this, only to realize that at the end of the day, I am making my own choices and shaping my reality in so doing. We've probably watched all the same videos, LOL!

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