“I am a part of all that I have met.”—Tennyson, Ulysses
From Lighthouse to Tree
For years, I wanted to be a lighthouse.
It was a sincere aspiration. I imagined myself standing strong and clear, shining bright for others as they navigated stormy seas. That image came from a quote I loved, one often misattributed to Mandela, but originally written by Marianne Williamson:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure…”
That line gave me courage. Shine your light. Don’t shrink. Be a beacon for others.
And for a time, that metaphor served me well. It spoke to filling my own cup so it could overflow in service to others. It matched an inner script that said my task was to master myself, become resilient, and then light the path for others.
But I’ve come to realize something important.
The lighthouse stands apart. It shines, but it doesn’t listen. It simply endures and emits light from a fixed position.
As beautiful as that image is, I’ve started to see that it’s rooted in a deeper cultural program: the heroic individual.
Capable, visionary, untouchable.
What I’ve come to need, and what I believe this moment in history asks of us, is something different.
Not standing above the chaos, but rooted within it.
Not solitary resilience, but connected, coherent, relational.
The metaphor that speaks to me now is no longer the lighthouse.
It’s the tree in the forest.
A tall tree, perhaps, with deep roots. But not isolated.
It participates in the whole ecosystem, exchanging nutrients through the mycelial network, stabilizing soil, offering shade, and sustaining life. It receives and gives, flexes and holds. Its sovereignty is not in its detachment, but in its integration.
Carl Jung might have called this Eros—not romantic love, but a deeper, embodied engagement with reality.
Where Logos separates and defines, Eros connects. It is presence in relationship.
And I would argue that what we’re being called into now is not just sovereignty, but something beyond it: metasovereignty.
The Moment We’re In
We’re living through a period of deep uncertainty.
Institutions we trusted are wobbling. Climate disruptions are increasing. Public discourse is fragmenting. Even in our personal lives, many of us are sensing something profound: the old maps aren’t working.
We’re flooded with information, but we’re starving for meaning.
In times like these, it’s tempting to double down on control. To look for simple answers. To find the “right” framework, the “right” leader, or the “right” side to be on.
But this isn’t a problem we can fix with a better plan. It’s a condition we must grow the capacity to meet.
From Control to Capacity
Most of us were taught to approach life like an engineer: define the problem, fix it, move on.
That works in complicated environments where the variables are known and outcomes are predictable. But we’re no longer in a complicated world. We’re in a complex one.
In complexity, the path forward isn’t linear. It can’t be reduced to a set of steps or best practices. The causes are entangled. The future is uncertain. There is no master key.
In complexity, what matters most isn’t control.
It’s capacity.
The people who navigate complexity well aren’t necessarily the most knowledgeable.
They’re the ones who can hold paradox without collapsing.
Who stay coherent when things get messy.
Who can see the deeper patterns and still stay present.
That’s where metasovereignty comes in.

What Is Metasovereignty?
Metasovereignty is the ability to remain grounded, clear, and relational in the midst of complexity.1
It goes beyond the traditional idea of sovereignty, which focuses on autonomy, self-governance, and personal power. Those are important foundations. But metasovereignty is what happens when personal sovereignty matures into relational presence and systemic awareness.
It means being able to:
Hold multiple perspectives without becoming disoriented
Sense deeper patterns beneath surface-level problems
Choose when to act, when to step back, and when to simply witness
Make meaning without falling into rigid control
Stay present without needing certainty
It’s not about being “above it all” or spiritually bypassing. It’s about engaging more fully—with discernment, humility, and coherence.
And it’s not theoretical. Metasovereignty is something we can practice, develop, and live into.
Why “Metasovereignty” and Not Just Sovereignty?
It’s a fair question—why add the meta-?
Why not just focus on sovereignty as self-leadership or personal agency?
Because in today’s world, sovereignty alone is no longer enough.
Traditional sovereignty is about independence—acting from your own authority, drawing clear boundaries, taking responsibility for your choices. It’s essential. But it was forged in a worldview where the individual stands apart from the system.
Metasovereignty keeps the agency, but adds depth. It’s sovereignty that’s aware of interconnection. Here’s how it differs:
From autonomy to interdependence:
Metasovereignty honors the agency of the self within the web of life. It knows we are part of systems that shape and are shaped by us.From control to coherence:
In place of needing to master every outcome, metasovereignty focuses on staying integrated emotionally, cognitively, relationally, especially under stress.From ideology to integration:
Rather than defending a single worldview, the meta-sovereign can hold multiple perspectives, see the partial truth in each, and respond without collapsing into either/or logic. It depolarizes. It de-escalates. It regulates nervous systems.From performance to participation:
It’s not about shining brighter than others, being seen, or being rebellious—it’s about strengthening the whole by showing up with integrity, attunement, and care. It shows up in right relationship with self and others.
In short, metasovereignty is what sovereignty becomes when it matures beyond the self.
What It Looks Like in Real Life
“The courageous conversation is the one you don’t want to have. You don’t want to have it because it reveals something about yourself you don’t want to face. Yet it is precisely this rawness that allows you to belong to the greater conversation of life.”
—David Whyte, Consolations
Metasovereignty isn’t an abstract ideal—it’s visible in how people show up. You might recognize it in:
A facilitator who can name tension in a group without polarizing the room
A colleague who holds space for disagreement without taking sides or shrinking
A friend who stays calm and curious in the face of crisis or contradiction
A community member who brings coherence, not dominance, to collective decisions
Someone who names and disrupts entrenched patterns, not for rebellion’s sake, but because they’re attuned to a larger evolutionary current and are willing to move first, even alone
These people don’t need to have all the answers. They’ve cultivated the capacity to be present, discerning, and responsive, even when the terrain is uncertain. They stabilize, nourish, and help steward the field.
How We Build It
Metasovereignty isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you grow into.
You build it by engaging the full range of your development: cognitive, emotional, relational, somatic, and symbolic.
There are frameworks that help:
Spiral Dynamics and adult development theory2 reveal how consciousness evolves
The Cynefin framework distinguishes complexity from complication
Practices like shadow work, symbolic literacy, warm data, empathy circles, and collective presencing build your inner and relational range
That is, theory alone won’t do it. Metasovereignty is built through real relationships, real tension, real choice, real practices.
It’s formed in the messy, beautiful process of being human together in uncertain times.
Metasovereignty in the Web of Life
If you want a deeper metaphor, look to Indra’s Net, a teaching from Buddhist cosmology.
Imagine an infinite web stretching in all directions. At every intersection, a jewel—each one reflecting all the others. Nothing exists alone. Everything participates in the coherence of the whole.
That’s metasovereignty.
Not a lighthouse shining in isolation,
but a jewel in the net—clear, attuned, reflective, responsive to the whole.
Or, in earthly terms: a tree in the forest.
Rooted. Alive. Part of a network of mutual nourishment.
Metasovereignty isn’t about standing out.
It’s about showing up—so fully, so coherently, that your presence becomes nourishment for the world around you.
Metasovereignty is not just the ability to self-govern—it’s the ability to stay whole within relationship, to act with clarity within complexity, and to move with integrity within interconnected systems.
Where sovereignty emphasizes autonomy, metasovereignty integrates autonomy with attunement—a maturity of selfhood that strengthens the field, not just the self.
Jung spoke of individuation as the path to inner wholeness—a sovereign self, integrated and distinct from collective programming. What I’m calling metasovereignty builds on this, but takes it one step further. It’s where Jung’s inner journey meets Adler’s insight about social embeddedness. Where individuation becomes relational. You could call it relational individuation: the capacity to remain whole within connection, to integrate the self not in isolation, but in service of coherence with the living field around us. If the individuated self is a lighthouse, the metasovereign self is a tree in the forest—rooted, distinct, and deeply entangled with life.
I get what you mean. A shift from becoming a strong self to becoming a wise part of a greater whole.
I like where you're going. Keep going!