This was such a great read. You are a wonderful writer/storyteller! It's funny, I also have a tendency to idealize traits in other people that remind me of my father. We often idealize the things we either miss or lacked from a parent. In therapy, I learned about transference and countertransference which made a lot of sense and that awareness allowed me to stop doing that. Because each person is different, even if they remind us of another and we miss out on the opportunity to truly see them when we bring emotions and history from another. One of the people I put on a pedestal, sensed it and immediately told me, "If you meet the Buddha on the road, kill him." I didn't understand what that meant at the time but once the cracks started to show, it became clear and ended in betrayal.
Hey Krystal, thank you so much for your kind words! That really means a lot. I appreciate you sharing your story—I can absolutely relate to what you’re saying, and I love that you brought up the “If you meet the Buddha on the road, kill him” quote. I’d heard it before, but this is a new context for me, and it makes so much sense. It really captures how putting someone on a pedestal blinds us to their humanity, and eventually, that illusion has to shatter. Such a powerful reminder.
This was such a great read. You are a wonderful writer/storyteller! It's funny, I also have a tendency to idealize traits in other people that remind me of my father. We often idealize the things we either miss or lacked from a parent. In therapy, I learned about transference and countertransference which made a lot of sense and that awareness allowed me to stop doing that. Because each person is different, even if they remind us of another and we miss out on the opportunity to truly see them when we bring emotions and history from another. One of the people I put on a pedestal, sensed it and immediately told me, "If you meet the Buddha on the road, kill him." I didn't understand what that meant at the time but once the cracks started to show, it became clear and ended in betrayal.
Hey Krystal, thank you so much for your kind words! That really means a lot. I appreciate you sharing your story—I can absolutely relate to what you’re saying, and I love that you brought up the “If you meet the Buddha on the road, kill him” quote. I’d heard it before, but this is a new context for me, and it makes so much sense. It really captures how putting someone on a pedestal blinds us to their humanity, and eventually, that illusion has to shatter. Such a powerful reminder.